AUTHOR: Scott G
DATE: 7:02:00 PM
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Leaving things (and people) behind..
It feels like we've done this so much in the last couple of years. Deb left family and friends behind back in 2001 for a life in MA with me. It went well for almost 3 years, but we thought we'd be better off back down in FL. Having not thought things out and making an informed decision, we set out down that ever so familiar path to FL. After months of struggling to get by and rushing to get out of a house we shared with family, we sat and thought for a while. After a few long nights of thinking, we saw that moving to FL had been a mistake. Being the type of person who throws everything into each action, I switched everything over to FL when we got down there. I really just want to plant my roots and enjoy life in one place.
We came to the conclusion that we'd rather that place be MA. Both states have plusses and minuses. Florida has blast furnace-like heat, and MA has a deep freeze. Having had a life up in the sometimes cold north, we decided to go back to that. Things here can be just as bumpy as down there, but we felt we would be happier here. In the process we've hurt some feelings along the way. Deb's Mother was not happy and her friend Erica (as evidenced by comments) was not either. We had to leave quickly because two people and a growing baby cannot live on nothing for too long. Sooner or later there needs to be money coming in.
When it comes to the job situation down in FL, I will take the blame for that. I got into a bad situation and couldn't find my way out of it. I tried and tried and kept running into dead ends. The friend situation down there is difficult to discuss. I had none and Deb had a couple. Life throws curves at all of us and Deb's friends had things going on. One had a baby and the other just had a lot going on. Combine that with a lack of effort on Deb's part and it makes for a disastrous outcome. The end result was us leaving without saying goodbye to Deb's only close friend. What can I say? I can't always speak for Deb. Sooner or later she needs to speak up and do what is best. I love her, but she's human and makes mistakes like I have.
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