AUTHOR: Scott G DATE: 3:34:00 PM ----- BODY:

Feeling better.. finally..

Last night Brian and I went and listened to people sing very bad karaoke for a few hours. I had a couple of beers and had a mild buzz. We're finally getting things straight as far as money goes. I love my Mom and I'd do anything to help her financially or any other way, but l've been a little frustrated lately. Deb and I have been working and bringing home a decent amount each week. We've been buying groceries every week, putting the remainder in my Mom's account to help pay bills and pay ours from her account. There was never a question of whether or not we're going to help, but how. That 'how' ended up being us putting our money in her account. The part that bothers me is how my Mom has no regard for us when we're helping. Completely unprovoked and out of nowhere she made a comment today that upset me: "I don't care if you guys are living here, I'm still going to spend whatever I feel like spending." I wasn't even talking about her limiting her spending, but at least she could have some consideration and not make such offhanded comments like that. It's hard to level with my Mom adult to adult, because she always invokes "Mom power" over me and wins out no matter what I say. Deb and I have come to the conclusion that we will now put our money into our account and take money out to help her with bills. If I give her a few hundred a week to help out and she spends $60 on whatever she wants, the fact that I helped is still there. I can't stop her from doing what she wants, but I have bills too and they need to be paid out of my own account like any other adult. I wish money wasn't so important in life, but it is. Until tomorrow.. --------